Anxiety and depression in children: How can it be controlled?
World Mental Health Day is celebrated on October 10 worldwide and Anxiety and depression in children is also a major subject. In this regard, this article will conclude all the aspects regarding Anxiety and depression in children.
Just like an adult, every child worries and feels ‘anxiety and depression’ at times for some reason, but in some children, anxiety creates such effects that they don’t engage in the things they normally would. Feel happy.
But the latest research by Cathy Creswell, a professor at the University of Reading in the United Kingdom, has revealed that there are some recipes or prescriptions that parents can use to reduce the pain of ‘anxiety’ in children.
Professor Cresswell, who is the author of several books on managing anxiety in children, has compiled some tips based on her research that parents can use with their children.
1- Don’t say ‘don’t panic, it will happen ‘
Children between the ages of four and eight years are afraid of spirits, jinn or giants or animals.
Anxiety and depression in children has the effect that they do not enjoy things that they normally enjoy.
While older children may have real but less severe fears of injury, such as murder, terrorism or nuclear war.
No matter how old your child is, don’t dismiss his fears or worries. Simply telling the child that their fear is not right, is not going to happen, or that the child is stupid does not solve the problem. Instead, acknowledge that the fear the child is experiencing is valid.
It is important to understand your children’s worries and fears as if they are feeling valid
2 Don’t dismiss children’s fear or panic outright.
Children should not be told that the fear they are feeling will never happen.
,You don’t need to create an alternative way, if the child asks, help him find a solution on his own
3 Don’t arrange children’s lives around their worries. This will deprive the child of the opportunity to learn on his own
If your child is afraid of dogs and you see a dog in the street and change your path to keep the child safe, you are in a sense sending the child a message that his fear is valid. But it also doesn’t mean that you force the child to face something that makes him very afraid. Instead, help him gradually learn to cope with this fear.
Try to get as much information as possible about the child’s experience
4 If the child’s anxiety and depression is becoming more of a problem, then take a closer look at what happens when the child is most anxious.
The real idea behind this trick is for parents to understand their child’s state of fear, not to ask them if you’re not feeling afraid.
5 Ask children open-ended questions.
Parents have a great desire and love to tell their child the solution to his problem. But instead, it is better to listen to the child and try to understand him so that he can express his fear or concern, which is causing his anxiety, in a good way without hesitation. His fear may be due to misunderstanding.
Talking to children is the key to the problem to avoid anxiety and depression.
‘When I was young myself, I used to feel scared of traveling on a high-speed train. When I used to see a high-speed train passing by outside, it would pass in front of me making a lot of noise.’
‘At that time I felt that just as people standing outside feel the noise of a high-speed train passing by, perhaps the people sitting inside feel the same way. Until you understand what is causing your child’s fear, you will not be able to help him.’
A big journey is made with small steps
6 Instead of telling your child that his fear is unfounded, ask him questions that make him realize that maybe the reason for his anxiety is not real.
For example, you could ask the child what events have happened in his past that made him think that his fear might become a reality.
A variety of questions must be asked slowly and gradually to determine whether what the child fears may actually happen or is feared. First ask simple questions then ask questions like how can it be dealt with if this happens.
Think like a child about fear
7 Encourage the child to come up with better mental strategies for coping with his fear or anxiety.
If a scary scene occurs while watching a play or movie, ask the child what is the worst thing or accident that could happen (they forget all the dialogue, cry, etc.) The audience laughs at them).
Then you also ask them what would be the best thing about the scene (that their acting was so good that one could get a chance to act in a Hollywood movie because of it). Chances are that the child will find himself somewhere between these two extremes.
Teach children to develop coping strategies for their problems
8- Plan so that the parents can test the gradual change in the child’s fear
A pair of parents from the University of Reading were taught ten steps to teach their child how to deal with what they fear if they were to face it. Talking in this way will build confidence in the child.
Praising children builds confidence in them
9 Praise and reward the child for taking steps and every achievement
In this way, parents will be appreciating the child’s efforts and encouraging him to deal with difficult situations.
Anxiety and depression is normal in children, actually dealing with it is an art that we have to learn.
10 It is normal to be anxious or nervous at times, but if their anxiety is bothering them enough that they can’t even do their daily work, then it may be best to seek counseling.
In that case, read books that describe better strategies for dealing with these problems or consult your doctor. And if you feel necessary, ask your doctor about cognitive behavioral therapy.
It is important for parents to read books that have better strategies for dealing with these issues
11 Remember one thing that you can not eliminate all fear or all anxiety from a child’s life.
Your real goal is to build the child’s ability to cope with life’s uncertainties, rather than to destroy the ability to feel fear altogether.
Learning the ability to organize and coordinate your emotions is another name for learning. By the time we reach puberty, we are better able to understand things in context and understand how we can deal with our problems.